"Just because I love you."
How many times have we said this to another individual in our lives - the love of our life, a parent, a sibling, a child?
How many times have we overlooked saying it?
How many times have we overlooked showing our love?
How many times do we take love for granted?
10 years ago this week, I celebrated my 15th wedding anniversary with the love of my life. It was a day like any other day.
Wake up, shower, wake up our three kids (9, 6 and 10 months), chaos of getting out the door - breakfasts more than likely eaten in the back of the van. Splitting up kids and taking them to their respective camps, day care, practice, etc. Off to work.....work.....leave work to split up parenting duties to pick up kids, go to baseball, play rehearsal, swim practice, etc etc etc. Somehow fit in dinner on the run, baths and kids to bed....then off to bed ourselves.
I am sure somewhere along that normal crazy day in the life of working parents with three kids we realized it was a milestone anniversary and maybe there was a quick kiss on the run and a "Happy Anniversary" but nothing more. I wonder if we even acknowledged it that much!
I do know we both knew that life with three kids under 10 was crazy and had discussed that we would figure out a way to celebrate with a dinner or maybe even a weekend away some other year. But at this moment, it just wasn't possible.
Unfortunately, it never was possible.
Two months later, Brian was in the hospital for a very rare form of cancer and passed away within 2 weeks of his diagnosis.
My life is filled with regret - most I can accept and change direction or go back and have a "do over."
One of my biggest regrets I can't "do over."
Taking our love for one another for granted is number 1 on my regret list.
Tuesday would have been our 25th wedding anniversary.
To honor our missed opportunity of acknowledging our love to each other, I am asking that you help me in celebrating this lost milestone by making an unexpected gesture of love to someone important in your life "just because you love them."
A hug, a lingering kiss out of the blue, flowers, do the dishes, bring home dinner, or just simply tell them how much you love them and why they are so important to you.
Then please share your "Just because I love you" moment with me as a comment on my post or on my Facebook page.
For each moment that is shared with me , I will make a $5.00 to the LIVESTRONG Foundation in memory of Brian and our 25th anniversary.
For every $25 donation made to my LIVESTRONG fundraising account on June 10th, I'll donate another $5.00. (use this link to make a donation on-line)
Please don't ever take those you love for granted. I am living proof that you will regret it and you can't have a "do over."
By the way - I love all my friends and family for all the support you have given me these past ten years. Thank you and I LOVE YOU!